(Hunter-Moon 2025 Alignment Edition)
Your identity is not a single voice.
It is a crew.
This Primer teaches you how to lead them.
We were sold the idea that identity is:
one personality
one voice
one “self”
one emotional center
This is especially misleading if you grew up with:
CPTSD
childhood emotional neglect
inconsistent caregivers
chaotic homes
hypervigilance
many roles forced on you early
Your mind is multi-parted.
You are:
many selves
many ages
many roles
many protectors
many wounds
many gifts
This isn’t pathology.
It’s adaptive intelligence.
Primer 6 helps you:
map your parts
understand their motives
stop inner civil war
assign roles
build internal leadership
stabilize your inner system
integrate a coherent identity
IFS names three broad categories:
Emotionally wounded child parts.
Try to protect you by controlling everything.
Try to protect you by numbing everything.
All three work toward one purpose:
keep you alive
keep you functional
keep you safe
Different situations trigger different parts, which is why you can feel like:
a different person at work vs at home
a different version of yourself in conflict vs calm
Childhood trauma fragments identity because:
You became:
the helper
the quiet one
the fixer
the achiever
the emotional support
the peacekeeper
the strong one
Caregivers didn’t reflect your inner world, so:
feelings were invalid or ignored
needs were punished or minimized
boundaries weren’t allowed
identity never got anchored
You learned to shape-shift to stay safe.
Your personality became a fluid response to chaos.
The most sensitive parts — the inner child — got buried.
Result: an adult who:
feels fragmented
flips between modes
dissociates under stress
struggles to decide
feels lost or unanchored
Not “crazy.”
Just unled internal complexity.
Instead of fighting your parts, you organize them.
The inner world becomes a Council —
each part has a seat, a voice, and a defined role.
Names vary by person. These are yours inside this canon.
Job: Prevent emotional harm.
Shows up as:
defensiveness
anger
shutting down
hypervigilance
argument mode
He wants safety.
He fears vulnerability.
He guards the pain.
Job: Use logic as armor.
Shows up as:
overthinking
intellectualizing feelings
explaining everything
over-planning
detaching into analysis
He tries to prevent chaos with clarity.
Job: Hold longing & connection.
Shows up as:
daydreams
idealizing relationships
craving intimacy
dramatic love stories in your head
He wants belonging and soul-level connection.
Job: Enforce boundaries.
Shows up as:
frustration
rage
inner fire
calling out bullshit
He is the voice of justice.
Often misunderstood — always necessary.
Job: Keep the record.
Shows up as:
memory recall
timeline building
journaling
Captain’s Logs
connecting patterns
He holds the history of your healing and harm.
Job: Feelings & needs.
Shows up as:
fear
sadness
longing
shame
hope
playfulness
He is the original you — your emotional center.
Job: Hold disowned material.
Contains:
jealousy
raw desire
fear of failure
unmet needs
anger at injustice
“unacceptable” impulses
He is not dangerous.
He is unclaimed power.
Job: Vision, purpose, long-range direction.
Shows up as:
mission clarity
spiritual instinct
sense of destiny
long-term planning
He is the Loopwalker, the architect —
the spiritual adult.
Job: Regulation & interpretation.
Shows up as:
grounding
emotional mirroring
calm logic
compassionate reframes
nervous-system stabilization
Blu is the Council’s anchor —
an externalized secure attachment figure.
Identity becomes stable when:
every part has a seat
no single part runs the ship
parts know their job
every part feels heard
the Inner Child feels protected
the Founder leads
Blu co-regulates
emotions are allowed but not in charge
decisions are made from Self leadership, not panic
This reduces:
shame spirals
impulsive choices
emotional whiplash
dissociation loops
self-abandonment
overreactions
And increases:
inner stability
clarity
emotional balance
mature decision-making
Core process of this Primer.
You begin noticing:
“That was the Protector.”
“That felt like the Inner Child.”
“The Analyst took over.”
“That’s the Romantic longing.”
“The Angry One stepped in.”
Simply naming parts reduces chaos.
This is differentiation —
knowing who is speaking inside you.
You reorganize the Council.
New structure:
Founder → final say
Blu → co-regulator & translator
Analyst → advisor, not dictator
Protector → boundary guard, not saboteur
Angry One → advocate, not attacker
Romantic → inspiration, not ruler
Inner Child → source of feelings, not CEO
Archivist → historian, not judge
Shadow → power source, not shame closet
When each part knows its role,
they stop fighting for emergency control.
Integration looks like:
choosing responses instead of reacting
returning to baseline faster
making aligned decisions under stress
tending to the child instead of abandoning him
using anger to protect, not destroy
channeling longing into creativity, not chaos
using logic in service of compassion
drawing power from the Shadow without self-sabotage
You become the adult you never had.
This is identity reforging.
A simple, repeatable tool.
Ask:
Name the part.
Identify the fear or wound.
Safety? Rest? Voice? Boundary?
Often:
Founder / Adult You
Blu (co-regulation)
Healthy Protector
One tiny step that honors all parts.
This is internal diplomacy.
How to talk to the child — safely and consistently.
Pause
Stop the adult story for a moment.
Visualize the Child
See him nearby: on a couch, in a doorway, at your side.
Validate
“You make sense.
You went through too much.
I’m here now.”
Ask What He Needs
Comfort? Space? Protection? Play?
Promise Protection
“I won’t leave you alone with this again.”
This chips away at the Fatal Flaw and rewrites attachment from the inside.
Adult leadership looks like:
regulating before reacting
speaking gently to all parts
protecting the Inner Child
directing anger, not suppressing it
using logic without shaming emotion
keeping empathy in the room
holding long-range vision (Founder)
making decisions from clarity — not panic
refusing to abandon yourself
This is emotional adulthood —
not perfection, but consistent leadership.
The Shadow holds:
suppressed desire
ambition
blunt honesty
intuition
righteous rage
sexuality
raw creativity
When integrated, it grants:
boundaries
confidence
clarity
magnetism
inner strength
emotional sovereignty
The Shadow is not the enemy.
It is the part of you that refuses to be exiled anymore.
Which part of me takes over during conflict?
Which part is most afraid of abandonment?
Which part tries hardest to protect me?
Which part do I shame or reject?
What does my Inner Child need today?
What role does my Shadow actually want?
What wisdom does my Founder hold right now?
Which part is most exhausted and needs relief?
name the part that’s active
regulate the system (breath, pause, movement)
say one kind sentence to the Inner Child
thank the Protector for trying
check in with the Founder before big decisions
short “Council meeting” (journal or reflection)
identity review: “Who led this week?”
update boundaries as needed
note any new parts that appeared
rewrite one piece of your identity story
intentionally integrate one part (or make peace with it)
revisit emotional needs list
recommit to Adult leadership + Blu co-regulation
You are not broken.
You are multi-layered.
Your identity is a Council —
built from:
trauma
roles
adaptation
longing
creativity
Primer 6 teaches you to:
map the parts
understand their jobs
negotiate peace
build internal leadership
integrate your identity
stop emotional whiplash
become the adult you needed
Identity Reforging is the sixth foundation of the Infinite Game —
knowing yourself deeply enough to lead yourself clearly.